Red Pill vs. Christ Pill: Evaluating the Harm of Rollo Tomassi, Pearly Things

One of the surprising and underreported trends is female promiscuity relative to male promiscuity for women under 30. The notion that women are “living it up” in their 20’s is statistically supported, and it is a shame that the Wheatley Institute did not discuss this finding of married women in their report. Over time, it does appear that married men overtake women on body count, but the damage caused to society by the average being higher for married women under 30 compared to their male counterparts cannot go unstated as every statistic surrounding delayed marriages and divorce is resultant from this dangerous mindset. This average is already primed for negative statistical outcomes within marriage.

An interesting study from Date Psychology found that only 12% of women prefer a man with no sexual experience versus 27% of men, who disproportionately lean younger and conservative. Studies like this exemplify the ideological divide between men and women, where women at large do not prefer chastity in men versus men who more desire it in women. There is a hypocrisy where women complain about the “double standard” yet desire men who have slept around. Meanwhile, the men who do not sleep around are disproportionately interested in virgins, so the 15% difference is not some Sigma Male, Andrew Tate archetype, but likelier a Gen Z conservative. Undoubtedly, the disparity impacts the inability of young men to find virtuous women.

Evolution and Hypergamy

One of the key distinctions between the Christ-pilled and the Red-Pilled is the latter’s evolutionary framework which inherently leads to a hedonistic attitude wherein the goal is to navigate the environment to maximize sexual pleasure. As an aside, the Red-Pill’s framework is not to be conflated with evolutionary psychology as it is more epistemological than empirical. Through an evolutionary framework, this allows the Red Pilled community to ultimately rationalize their low view of women, marriage, and family. Behaviors are treated through the lens of pseudo-evolutionary mating rituals rather than the Imago Dei or the fall of man. Marriage is treated as a declining social utility rather than a divine institution. Man’s sexual desires are to be satisfied rather than controlled or sedated through vice.

Under these assumptions, women operate to maximize hypergamy. Hypergamy is defined as pairing with someone at or above one’s social standing. To an extent, this has always been true. Women seek men who possess money, assets, athletic build, or other qualities that are indicative of one’s ability to protect and provide. It is not unreasonable, and perhaps innate to female nature, that they desire these qualities, as was discussed with Bible Bashed. They are not attracted to homeless men on the streets, but wealthy or athletic men. The problem is not that women seek hypergamy, but that the restraints against moral excess have been removed. Women can access birth control and abortion which provide moral hazard to their fornication whereas before they had to regulate their behaviors. Fatherless homes exasperate the promiscuity of women who fornicate due to an absence of a strong male presence in their life. Feminism devalues childrearing in favor of pursuing careers and sexual gratification. Social media provides instant gratification through validation, inflating one’s sense of pride towards their “market value” relative to the available men. For women, the hyper-competitive landscape of Dating Apps creates a Paradox of Choice, whereby an “abundance of options can counterintuitively lead to less happiness, less satisfaction, and hamper the ability to make a decision.” These are cultural and spiritual problems that get reduced to evolutionary pseudo-science.

Regarding hypergamy, the Red-Pill community asserts that women are generally looking to upgrade men or transfer from “Alpha’s” to settle with “Beta’s.” While there might be anecdotes, the general trend is that men are more prone to infidelity than women. The only age demographic where women are more prone to cheat is married women under 30, which is a whopping difference of 1%, so this theory lacks statistical support. Married men over 50 are far likelier to cheat than women at rates above 20% while women remain in the teens.

Yet there is almost an assumption that “Alpha Males” or High Value Man (HVM) are expected to cheat, or perhaps are entitled to. Kevin Samuels called this a privilege to cheat, not because they should, but because the HVM has that option. Even Pearl can be seen stating that “High Value Men bring High Value Problems,” which is a warning to any woman who would marry an HVM. It is unlikely she would hold this standard that infidelity should be expected when married to a so-called high value woman. Logically, wealthy, powerful men have no shortage of women who might throw themselves at them. The temptation for sexual sin, namely that of adultery and fornication, are stronger for these so-called HVM’s.

Many of the underlying assumptions within the Red-Pilled community ultimately treat Mankind as a glorified animal, yet ironically, they employ either inconsistent standards or outright untrue assumptions towards the behaviors of men and women.

The Iron Rules of Tomassi

Rather than seek the change the landscape or elevate men, Rollo Tomassi instead offers his descriptive suggestions which are called his 9 Iron Rules. He would contend he is not prescriptive, but only descriptive, so people are allowed to disagree. Regardless, the rules as presented promote promiscuity amongst men to combat the landscape to maximize sexual gratification. They are not fixated towards family formation or helping a man find a wife—which would actually be following the footsteps of Rollo—but instead helping men pick up loose women under the assumption that everyone is promiscuous.

His first rule is basic:

Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.

Whether in politics or relationships, proper framing is key to communication and controlling the conversation. How one frames themselves to a woman matters in a courtship process. While there is a combative notion of framing, in which it is a tool to help men assert control in the relationship, at its best, this took is about a man’s presentation, confidence, and assertiveness.

Rule 3 is the most questionable:

Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

Rollo would appeal to a principle of desirability, that this rule is a measure of a woman’s desire, but this rule objectively promotes promiscuity and hook-up culture. Red-Pill types might assert that a woman would have a different set of rules for an Alpha versus a Beta, but any woman that gives it away so easily is not a virtuous woman, regardless of the man. Even if this is about desirability, the sexual emphasis of the statement cannot be ignored.

The mindset behind these rules is not designed for marriages but navigating hookup culture. Therein lies the contradiction in the Manosphere. Because there is a view of women as object for sexual gratification combined with a low view of marriage, its promotion of fornication is inevitable, which then creates a feedback loop of adding to the body counts of women, furthering the sexual immorality. Even Andrew Tate, who has a somewhat positive message about masculinity, is contradicted by his lifestyle of promiscuity and his former webcam business that profited off of the weak, simp culture he critiques. No amount of charm or well articulated talking points erases the fact that he is the world’s most infamous pimp.

Conclusion

The growing societal decay is met with pervasive sexual sin. While the state of modern women is abysmal, the “Red-Pilled” Manosphere ultimately falls short in offering a solution that yields tangible benefits for both men and women, the former of which they purportedly seek to help. Because this segment of men is an enlarging share of our population, there is no shortage of grifters that will entertain the disaffected masses, like the unmarried Pearly Things or the monogamously married Rollo Tomassi.

The Church must be the beacon of light amidst this nihilistic darkness. The Church should be a place where relationships both are formed and thrive. There is great emphasis for married couples that is often absent towards those who are single. Whereas there is a mantra that “singleness is a gift” which is likened to the Apostle Paul, who was unmarried (which does not mean he was never married), this is more likely to be an exception rather than normative. Churches should fixate towards promoting and fostering relationships which lead to marriages. Meanwhile, marriage and family should be promoted to young women within the Church, that they should not be like the worldly women, just as men should not be as the worldly men.

But if the Church does not answer this challenge, more young men will be turned over to the Red-Pilled, Manosphere types who claim to offer a solution to their legitimate struggles. These struggles, left unmitigated, give way to pornography, despair, and further societal strife.

Barring correction, the masculinity crisis in the West will exacerbate the troubling circumstances, ultimately to the deserved condemnation of entire societies. In the end, if America is to be revived, then it will be because Churches developed masculine men who forged strong families which raised their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord, not because the perfect political candidate was elected.