Protestia vs. Right Wing: On Marrying Redeemed OnlyFans ‘Models’

Recent years have brought about the rise of the Manosphere, which encapsulates the plight of the modern dating market. The advent of apps like Tinder led to the rise of Hookup culture amongst the millennial generation, but the landscape has materially shifted away from Hookup culture and not necessarily for the better. In forming relationships, dating apps have effectively supplanted in-person options like workplace, school, family-friend network, for ways in which people meet. Unfortunately, the apps themselves are ineffective partially due to algorithms, but primarily the female users who swipe left on the majority of men while chasing the top twenty. Even an ugly woman has functionally unlimited options while average men fend for scraps. This has led to a decline in marital rates and a rise in singleness for men under 30.

Christian dating advice is frankly an embarrassment that often fails to address the actual landscape. Many in the church want to take on the so-called manosphere talking points which often leads to absolving or downplaying the behavior of women in a way that validates the talking points of Andrew Tate. Instead, it leads to downplaying the sins of women.

This is where Protestia chimed in with the following hypothetical:

Better to marry a former OF model who has come to know the depths of her sin and the mercy of the Lord, than an unkissed virgin with a haughty look and a proud heart.

This struck a cord with many Christians on the right, and for good reason. It juxtaposes the lowly whore with the ideal virgin, yet even under the terms listed, the virgin is still the better choice for she comes without the baggage of whoredom. Rhetorically, they were unfairly castigating their opposition. Contrary to the doubling down statements by Protestia, the debate is not over sanctification, but marriageability. In a sense, all sin can be rooted in pride, but a prideful virgin can be led in the direction of the LORD by her virtuous husband. Having only one sexual partner would establish a deeper connection, which would better enable the husband to lead the wife. Furthermore, the divorce risk would be considerably lower with the virgin. On the contrary, the whore comes with baggage and the potential of problems pertaining to her past that could impact a relationship.

Few, if any, on the side of Protestia actually married the whore, so this advice is something they have done, yet they freely suggest this as a viable option for their single male counterparts. Since marital advice is also financial advice, they are advising men to take reckless chances regarding their financial future with a suboptimal bride.

The point of little discussion is the price. The plight of the modern dating market is the adage that “a man must work five times harder than his grandfather for a woman who is five times worse.” This is called “hoeflation,” which is inflation pertaining to women. Society dictates that men are the ones who pay in the relationship, which pertains to their natural role. If both women cost the same, then the virgin is the superior option. And before anyone does the “what about the men,” this is not to say that there is no masculinity crisis, but simply that there are more quality men than quality women. Compared to women, single men desire children at a 12% higher margin. Feminism is driving the fertility crisis, not men’s behavior.

In how dating is conducted, the position of Protestia is that a man should MSRP for a used vehicle with 200K miles over MSRP for a new vehicle. The man does not get a discount for used but instead must pay full price. That is an awful deal. But to Protestia, this is the Proverbs 31 woman:

More thoughts as a certain segment of X have come out of the woodwork in protest of this post:

God’s design for marriage is that it is entered by men and women who have kept themselves pure, and who have a biblical understanding of how they to best love and serve their spouse in this area throughout the rest of their lives. Of course, of course, yea and amen.

And so if some Christian man sees a single woman who clearly loves the Lord and who exemplifies every praiseworthy feature the bible lauds, but she has a body count that’s been dead and buried with Christ in her baptism, and he wants to pass on that- that’s his perogative. Fair enough. He can do so with a clear conscience.

We would suggest however but he’s missing out on a good thing that is ‘more precious than jewels’ and whose value is ‘far above rubies.’ The scriptures aren’t silent on this: any man who makes her his wife ‘has found what is good and receives favor from the LORD.’

Some have asked “How would you feel if your son brought home a repentant and redeemed ex-OnlyFans model?”

Overjoyed.  Ecstatic. Thanking God that my son found a woman to whom Christ has shown great mercy.

I would do all I could to make her feel welcome, accepted, and loved. I would love to have her as a daughter-in-law and would never for a moment feel ashamed of her or that she is undeserving of my son.

He and I would certainly talk later about the unique challenges the relationship would bring and areas that they would have to navigate as a couple. There almost certainly will be some trials and tribulations other couples will never have to know.

But Christ covers all that. There is a grace for that, especially if BOTH of them have a deep understanding of how much they deserve death and damnation for their sins, and how good God is that he saved them from it.

The first issue is that a woman’s body count is not “buried” with Christ. This is commonly referred to as “Born-Again Virgin,” where claiming Christianity resets the body count to zero. The forgiveness of sins does not absolve earthly consequences, nor does it restore virginity. Paul does not minimize his persecution of the church and views himself unworthy to be called an Apostle. If such a woman does become married, it is not something they would have deserved or been worthy thereof. Instead, the attitude of many in the church is that a man should be lucky to have such a woman.

The second issue evident is that Protestia is advocating that men, while having the prerogative to reject (former) whores, could be “missing out.” This is functionally encouraging risk that is statistically likelier to result in disaster—risks they themselves never would have taken when single. The hypocrisy cannot be understated. The baggage of past sexual sin does not add value to the relationship.

The third problem pertains to the unrealistic advice towards parents. Parents absolutely should be critical of such a match for their sons. Parental approval is requisite per the 5^th Commandment. If the roles were reversed, most fathers wouldn’t approve a repentant sex offender for their daughters, but an OnlyFans whore is treated differently. This is minimizing towards the woman’s sins in a way that would not be shown to any man. Being repentant does not make one marriageable.

Rahab and Hosea

Many want to point to Rahab the prostitute and Hosea’s wife Gomar as proof texts, but this is inapplicable for numerous reasons. First, Scripture was written during a patriarchal time where men had duties to those around and underneath them. Boaz married Ruth not merely as an act of romance, but one of honor, just as he patronized her with grain as charity for Naomi. As with the concept of chivalry, it is rooted in hierarchy and social obligations. Thus, for Rahab, her marriage was not a modern romance novel, but a matter of honor culture. The Israelites vowed protection, so a marriage naturally sprang out of that need to protect Rahab and her family. Unlike today, there were no ancient divorce laws where Rahab could initiate a divorce and take half the field.

On Hosea, there is a historic debate whether the book is a parable or literal. Though the literal view is most prevalent today, the historic majority position would view it as a parable. Calvin stated the following in his commentaries:

Here interpreters labour much, because it seems very strange that the Prophet should take a harlot for a wife. Some say that this was an extraordinary case. Certainly such a license could not have been borne in a teacher. We see what Paul requires in a bishop, and no doubt the same was required formerly in the Prophets, that their families should be chaste and free from every stain and reproach. It would have then exposed the Prophet to the scorn of all, if he had entered a brothel and taken to himself a harlot; for he speaks not here of an unchaste woman only, but of a woman of wantonness, which means a common harlot…That this was done by the Prophet seems very improbable. But some reply as I have said, that this ought not to be regarded as a common rule, for it was an extraordinary command of God. And yet it seems not consistent with reason, that the Lord should thus gratuitously render his Prophet contemptible; for how could he expect to be received on coming abroad before the public, after having brought on himself such a disgrace? If he had married a wife such as is here described, he ought to have concealed himself for life rather than to undertake the Prophetic office. Their opinion, therefore, is not probable, who think that the Prophet had taken such a wife as is here described.

Then another reason, utterly unresolvable, militates against them; for the Prophet is not only bidden to take a wife of wantonness, but also children of wantonness, begotten by whoredom…Hence almost all the Hebrews agree in this opinion, that the Prophet did not actually marry a wife, but that he was bidden to do this in a vision. And we shall see in the third chapter (Hosea 3:1) almost the same thing described; and yet what is narrated there could not have been actually done, for the Prophet is bidden to marry a wife who had violated her conjugal fidelity, and after having bought her, to retain her at home for a time. This, we know, was not done. It then follows that this was a representation exhibited to the people.

Regardless of one’s view, Hosea is not a prooftext for marrying whores, former or otherwise.

Hot Holy Matrix

Christianity should be able to articulate dating advice that is both helpful and aspirational. It should build men up, not tell them to settle for less or accept the modern woman as the “new normal.” This is where Christians should employ the Hot Holy Matrix that was created by Father Moses, who is an Eastern Orthodox priest.